> Why do people choose therapy?
People seek counselling for many different reasons, some people are simply curious to learn more about themselves. At the Centre for Emotional Health our focus is on the cause of emotional issues, although we also work with symptoms. Some common 'symptoms' people experience of not feeling right include;
• Stress & Trauma
• Disability/Ill health
• Eating disorders
• Low self esteem
• Feeling ‘stuck’ in life
• Obsessive behaviour
• Identity issues
• Difficulties at work
Beneath these symptoms are often deep rooted feelings formed in response to experiences early in life which have started to manifest outwardly or physically impact on a persons behaviour and how they relate to themselves, others and the world around them.
Looking after you, you are your biggest asset
It is important to give yourself the space to reflect on the impact of life on your emotional world.
Common benefits experienced by people who have counselling inlcude;
• Personal insight
• Increased confidence and self-esteem
• Stronger sense of self
• Ability to cope better in difficult circumstances
• Increased emotional awareness of self and others
• Improved relationships
• More effective communication
• Resolution of conflicts
• Clarification of confused thoughts and feelings
• Increased motivation
• Personal development and growth
Counselling may be right for you if you want…
• an opportunity to talk through feelings in a confidential, warm, non judgemental environment
• an opportunity to reflect on past and current experiences/incidents which are causing you concern
• to understand your patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviours
• to come up with a plan of action to help resolve an issue
• to develop strategies to feel more in control of your life
• to bring some clarity and awareness to your situation
• to undertake personal development
• to understand self care
• to have space to be yourself
There are many reasons why we might feel a stigma about seeking counselling, particularly cultural.
Common attitudes include;
• Victorian values, and needing to havea 'stiff upper lip' or 'pull your socks up and get on with it'
• Cultural pressure to keep issues within the family/community
• Talking about emotions is a sign of weakness
• Sign of not being able to cope
• Its for women only
The irony is that talking about how we feel helps us move on in life. Not addressing our emotions, allowing the same negative thoughts to circulate over and over can cause us to hold ourselves back from what we really want.
When is the right time?
If you sense that things aren't quite right for you, maybe you're aware that something has happened which has upset you or perhaps you've noticed a change in your moods and behaviour and can't exlpain it. Emotional tension will only ease by acknowledging it.
• Good health isn’t about providing a cure once a person is unwell, its about preventing a person from becoming ill.
• Therapy is a supportive way of maintaining your well-being and ensuring that difficult or stressful experiences have an outlet to prevent build up of tension which can affect your health and ability to function at your best
• Counselling isn’t just for people with a label for their ‘issue’, its an explorative process which leads to greater self awareness and therefore increased control over your life and choices